Be quirky, not wierd. To be different is a gift, a dance to enjoy. But what ruins the dance for others is when someone treads on their foot in their own dance. Or worse off creeps them off the dance floor. Thats not it.
Which means none of the bullshit some people in alt groups may find fine (i have been in them) no edgy jokes, unless its all understood, no immaturity, racism or unserious/crybaby shit. And if you do, at least apologize. If not, might as well stay with your buddies for that.
You’re being wordy, what are you trying to say?